Tag Archive | growth

3 Daily Reminders

So, we all know how it feels to not have motivation, to want to stay in bed and to feel totally unloved, right? Even if just once, every one of us has felt that at some point.

What to do then?

  1. Remember you are enough
    No matter how much you feel like you’re lacking in skill, ability, intelligence, looks, education- whatever plagues you, basicly, with insecurity and fear. You are enough. There is no wrong way to be a human being, you just are and that’s it.

    There is always room for improvement and growth – but you don’t have to force yourself into it. Wherever you are on your journey now, that is ok. That is enough. YOU are truly enough.

  2. List all the good things you have
    Seems like such a cliché, I know. But it works; honest!
    I have made a list of all the good things I have – thinking on those that are less fortunate in so many ways to help me recognize the plentifulness that is around – and it made me feel so much better about my life and filled me with will to do and be more: more myself, more true, more fulfilled, more hopeful. And to give more: of my love, my time, my attention and my drive – to those who might need it, to the world, to those I love, to myself.

    Every now and then, most frequently than not, I falter. I forget that list. I forget to be thankful for all the things that most of us take for granted and even for those exceptional ones that are truly extraordinary things/people/events to be thankful for. I go back to the list. I re-do it, mentally. I re-write it, I add to it. Like a scrapbook of thankfulness that just keeps adding. And it feels good.
    Give it a try, sometime. I know it’ll make a difference, it did and does to me. And while you’re at it, make a list of your dreams, aspirations and goals (no matter what they are, they are valid and enough – unless you plan the decimation of Mankind, which I highly advice against, :p ) – seeing thoase two lists, together, might just give you the boost you need to achieve some of those thigns you want. Or it might put things into perspective, at least.

  3. Recognize all the good and loving people in your life

    That feeling of being recognized and appreciated. Don’t we all crave it? I believe it to be inherent to human condition, indeed.
    You want to feel loved, to feel wanted, appreciated. You want to be heard, and seen. We all do.
    Sometimes, that feeling doesn’t come. You inner voices make it feel like we’re unloved, unappreciated, alone. Like a burden to those around us. It is mostly just that: our inner dialogue, pulling us down, feeding off of our emotions, insecurities and needs.
    Recognize yourself. Appreciate yourself (see 1. : you are enough and worthy of love). Love yourself (another cliché, I know. There’s a reason these are clichés and it is not only repetition). Start from there, even if just a little bit, every day. A pat on your own back: you did good at work, you cooked your own dinner, you were able to remain calm during a stressful moment, etc. It really is the little things – this gives you perspective. And compassion. Towards yourselves and to others.
    From there, it is a small step to showing appreciation towards the people in your life. Depending on where your relationship with yourself is, sometimes it is even easier to do this bit than the previous one.
    A “Thank You”, a “I like having you around”, any kind words that truly and honestly express the good feelings you have towards that person. It makes such a huge difference! In them. In making sure they know. In ourselves. I have lost people I didn’t have the chance to fully show how much I loved and appreciated tham and how thankful I was for their being in my life and accepting me even when I was rejecting myself so painfully. I don’t ever want anyone to leave my life (whichever way it might be) without having at known once, even if just a bit, something about my feelings for them and the goodness they brought me.

    Bonus (for reaching this far): A little TED for entertainment and education

    What are your thoughts? Have done any of these things? Will you try them?
    Let me know your experiences and opinios, I am always glad to learn new perspectives!

Evoluções | Evolutions

13 – Setembro – 2009
Sou carne, sou fraca, sou humana.
Sou carne, sou forte, sou humana.

28 de abril de 2012

Tenho falhas e defeitos, para além de qualidades. Por todos estes factores quero ser aceite e amada…e não apesar deles.
Não quero que me seja constantemente apontado o dedo aos meus defeitos e erros quando os conheço tão bem. Não se as coisas boas não são reconhecidas. Não sem a honestidade e franqueza, a aceitação e intimidade por que anseio.
Porque teimamos em acentuar os deslizes e falhanços e a abafar as realizações e sucessos dos outros? Porquê? Porquê somos tão rápidos a apontar o dedo e tão reticentes a aplaudir?
Será que me escondo assim tanto? Que a muralha que construí à minha volta é assim tão grande? Será que ninguém me vê realmente? Será que não mereço ser amada, aceite, apoiada?
Estarei destinada à solidão? Já não bastará aquela que sinto constante?
“Cada ser humano é um universo.” Haverá algum universo que queira compartilhar-se com o meu? Será o meu micro-cosmos um que não tem compatibilidade nem lugar para estar com mais nenhum?
Tantas vezes me ponho estas perguntas e tantas mais acabo sem respostas. Aliás, nunca obtive resposta. Serei a única a perguntar-me? Serei a única a não obter respostas? Estarei, também nisso, só?
Que bom que hoje já sei onde me encontrar, que já tenho universos onde o meu pode pousar e vice-versa. Meus queridos amigos, nem sonham o quanto têm sido essenciais para manter a minha sanidade (mesmo que às vezes pareça que já a perdi).
Adoro-vos a todos!
PS – Hoje, 19 de Abril de 2016, mantenho estas palavras finais. Grata a todos os que me têm acompanhado nesta jornada e neste crescimento, o meu coração é vosso.

On the nature of being yourself


Genii of my existence, how I have searched for you how I have waited for you.
How I have longed for you!

All these years, this void, this notion of being incomplete and not knowing why! This missing you without knowing you, my outer soul, my inner self.

Looking deep within for what was out and reaching far away for what was close. What an utter fool was I! But, such as it is said, we grow. Live and learn. Know thyself… and love thyself. Find your completion in your virtues and, more importantly, in your flaws.

Worn out sentences, same old clichés, but still valid, still so true: know yourself, value yourself, fear not showing the real you to the world! Some may love you, some may hate you, some may not even notice you… and all the in-betweens. It has always been that way.

Still, no matter what, live to your fullest, being true to who you are.

September, 2009